If you couldn't tell from the title of this blog I am fed up with people today. I finally got things working out well with guy 2, who we will now call "A" since he is now the only guy in my life, only to have it blow up in my face because of stupid people.
I'll start at the beginning. Last week "A" and I were having a conversation about our weekend plans and I told him that one of my friends wanted me to go out to the club on Friday and then another one wanted me to go out with her on Saturday. I also told him that I didn't think I was going because I didn't feel well. "A" then tells me that he overheard a conversation at our work about how I supposedly act when I go out with my friends. We were not in a place that was appropriate to discuss this so we agreed to talk later. Well being curious after I got home I called the two friends that I had talked about going places with this weekend to find out what this rumor could possibly be. Explicitly telling them that I wanted this to stay between the two of us because I did not want the rumor to be continued. Neither of them knew anything so I waited. "A" finally told me that the rumor was that whenever I go out I like to get falling down drunk and bring home random guys neither of which is remotely true. He thought I was going to be mad but I wasn't because I know it's not true and so do the people who matter in my life.
I again talked to my two friends and told them what happend. The friend that I was supposed to go out with on Friday, we'll call her "SS" asked me who I thought it was saying these things. I ran down a list of people who had ever hung out with me at a club but said that I didn't think any of them would say such a thing or would even know enough about me to make such a judgement call. She then asked me again if I thought it was certain people and I finally told her "I don't know and I really don't care." I did not have any similar conversation with my other friend.
Well I thought that was the end of it but unfortunately not. Last night "A" calls me and is extremely upset. Someone from work came up to him and was angry because they thought "A" told me they had started this rumor. I told "A" that I had never said that I thought it was anyone specific and that I also did not say that he said it was anyone. Basically when it came down to it, he was mad because he felt I was saying things about him.
I am frustrated for several reasons at this point. 1) Why is it that people have nothing better to do than talk about my life? Trust me, I live it, and it's not that exciting. 2) Why is it that people who are supposed to be your friends and whom you can trust always end up screwing you over? I mean come on people we aren't in junior high any more. and 3) It pisses me off that my life is now affected ("A" is not talking to me) by some idiots who like to talk and apparently have no life of their own.
I have two words for people GROW UP!
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4 comments:
Well i said i'll be watching on you and i have.
My advice.... Let ppl thing whatever they want to think... be sure about yourself and let the world roll-on...
Forget about rumors!! And don't even try to find who started it..
About A, well if he knows you (witch looks like he is starting to) he will know that is not true.. If he loves you and if hes the one for you he will understand that it is all rumors and will let it go as that.
If he can understand that, well, as u said he needs to grow up. But well it all takes time for you to know each other, and for a relationship really be one.
So take your time and forget about rumors and gossip. GL
Sounds like drama all over again. I have to admit that I am not all that young anymore and don't have time to go out. This whole thing does sound like something out of junior high or high school. This is why I never liked dating anyone I worked with. I am assuming that you two work in the same place since you said he heard it at work. I honestly tried this and found out that word travels fast in even the biggest companies/organizations. Unfortunately he seems to have taken offense, so there isn't much that can be done.
If I didn't know better it sounds like an instance of well placed words. I guess you have to watch who you say to even your best friends. In fact I came across this with my fiance at her job. She talked to the wrong people about mundane things, and it ended up being spun into world class gossip.
Alas, he only knows what is happening and nothing else. Give it time to blow over, and in the mean time keep things to yourself.
Just my 2 cents on the matter.
Dear.
I from Indonesia.
Possibly we can change mutual information.
Thank you.
Thanks to everyone for their words of wisdom. I am definitly learning who I can talk to and who I can't. There is a song I love called "You Find out Who Your Friends Are" and I have to say I've learned the hard way. In case anyone is wondering it all did eventually blow over and "A" and I are doing better.
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